Sex Ed Resources
Myths About Sex Kids Are Learning In Sex Ed
There's No Such Thing As Safe Sex
This is extremely commonly taught, especially in areas where abstinence-only sex education is prevalent. The facts: While the only way to guarantee 100% that you won’t get pregnant, there are still many other options to make sure the sex that you are having is safe. Condoms, birth control, and non-penetrative sex are a few safer options.
Everything Gets You Pregnant
It is a common mistaken belief that sexual conduct of any nature may get you pregnant. The facts: Kissing, oral sex, anal sex and many other sexual acts cannot get you pregnant. Unprotected PIV sex can, but having protected sex and using caution can minimize the risks of pregnancy.
Masturbation Is Not Acceptable
Masturbation is almost never covered in sexual education programs, leading to a false belief for young people that it is wrong or unacceptable. The facts: Masturbation is an extremely common and natural way for young people to begin exploring sex. Talking about masturbation in sex ed. could be an effective way to create a comfortable and sex-positive environment for students.
Sex Is Only A Biological Urge
Young people are being taught that sex only exists as a method to make a baby, and that's it. The facts: Sex serves a variety of other purposes, such as a method of obtaining pleasure, a way to be intimate with your partner, or its role in life beyond procreation.
Abstinence Is The Only Morally-Correct Option
Another favorite in the abstinence-only crowd is to teach kids that having sex is immoral and that abstinence is the only morally-correct option. The facts: Everyone’s morals and beliefs are different, and everyone should feel comfortable acting in a way that is right for them. Additionally, arguing that only abstinence is moral can put an incredibly negative light on sex, decreasing the likelihood for young people to open up about it, ask questions and reduce their risky behaviors.
Condoms Are Not Effective
Many sex ed. programs are quick to argue that condoms are often ineffective. The facts: when used correctly, condoms are effective 98% of the time. They are also highly effective in preventing most STIs. It is important for sex ed. programs to teach about birth control and effective condom usage to ensure young people are using condoms correctly, and thus, decreasing their risk of pregnancy or STIs.
Having Protection Available Means They Will Want Sex
A common misunderstanding is that once we talk about sex or offer protection to teens, it will make them start having sex. The facts: Teenagers already want to have sex. A recent study from the CDC showed that youth engaged in abstinence-only sex ed. programs were no more likely to delay sex than those with comprehensive sex ed. This means we might as well be giving youth the tools and knowledge to have safe and protected sex if they are going to be having sex regardless.
Sex Is Between A Man & A Woman
Very few sex ed programs talk about non-heterosexual sex. In fact, three states in this country are required to share only negative information on sexual orientation. The facts: There are lots of different kinds of sex that can be had not just between a man and a woman. There is also a spectrum of different genders and sexual orientations, all of which are absolutely okay and normal to identify with. Sex ed. programs need to work on catering to a variety of different student needs, as not all students will be having the same kind of sex. For more information on LGBTQ+ sex ed and health visit www.3rs.org
Your Genitals Will Be Ruined With Sex
Showing pictures of penises and vaginas full of STIs teaches young people that if they have sex, their genitals will be ruined. The facts: Safe sex exists, and as long as safe sex is practiced correctly, you can avoid STIs. Further, contracting an STI does not mean you are “ruined”. Many STIs are curable and treatable.